Because of my overwhelming desire to feel liked and wanted, I oftentimes find myself letting others push me around. I lack so much backbone when it comes to calling others out when they have hurt my feelings.
Over the course of my life, I have found (and continue to find) myself in friendships where the other person uses me for their benefit only; like when their other friends are busy or as an advice giver. There is typically very little two-way sharing and caring—as a friendship I believe should work.
I know that there are different types of friendships—you have confidants, acquaintances, best friends, etc. And these friendships each entail varying amounts of responsibilities as a friend. However I also believe that when a friend discloses a certain amount about themselves, the respectable thing to do is show the same type of courtesy back towards the other person.
I know that I am not always the best example of a friend; I get annoyed, I get short—it’s a part of being human. But one thing college taught me was the art of apologizing for my actions when I have done wrong to another; just ask M and T the number of times that I have apologized for snapping, as they, too, have done with me.
However the one thing that I do pride myself on is listening to and caring for all my friends. I have never turned away someone who has wanted to talk or needed a hug. And I always ask about the certain odds and ends that people rarely expect you to remember.
Because I know how it feels to be in the place where you want the exact same thing; a listening ear, a shoulder to cry on, or a simple hug. Quite thankfully I have found that in the roomie, and M, and many of my other BC and home friends.
I still have those few, though, that can pretty much get me to do anything. So, I’m asking you, my lovely blog readers: What do I do? How do I respectfully and politely ask a friend to be careful of my feelings without hurting theirs? Without being a bully?
Because I need to learn how to stand up for myself.